Parenting with Discipline: A Guide to Raising Happy, Positive Children
It is important to establish rules and boundaries for children at an early age and enforce them consistently
“Discipline is the foundation upon which all success is built. Lack of discipline inevitably leads to failure.” — Jim Rohn
One day, a father came to my office with a complaint that my teacher was not allowing his son to sit in the class. I asked the teacher about the matter, and he told me;
“The child does not sit in class, throws stones, and does not allow other children to study. I have called his father several times to make him sit in class and take care of him, but he does not take it seriously.”
Upon hearing this, the child’s father replied,
“Sir, I am not sending him to school to study; I am sending him because he is bothering his family and neighbours and quarrels arise every day. If he stays in the madrasah, there will be some peace at home.”
This primary school child rebelled against their parents and teachers at an early age, showing that no discipline was maintained at home and that the child was neither taught nor enforced boundaries.
As a parent, it can be painful to enforce discipline at home. However, if you do not bear the pain of discipline, you will have to bear the pain and suffering of regret, which is much more painful than the pain of discipline.
Maintain discipline at home, adopt it yourself, and the child will follow the same environment. Without discipline, when a child grows up, it can seem as if there are no boundaries in life. Children look to their parents to define these boundaries. On the other hand, some parents practice strict discipline (authoritarian parents) and do not allow their children to explore their world. This can often cause children to become fearful, anxious, or depressed. It has been seen that such children grow up to become rebels who neither obeys their parents nor their teachers.
A child can easily be made into a good person if they are raised well from the start, but once a child is distracted, it is very difficult to correct them.
Man is driven by his unconscious. Big decisions in life are made unconsciously, not consciously. The habits we adopt can be good or bad; they can be developed consciously or unconsciously — this is actually our unconscious mind. We are not what we look like physically, how we dress, or how we talk. We are what our habits are, what our subconscious is. Bad habits are easy to choose from, but living with them is difficult and uncertain. On the contrary, good habits are hard to pick but easy to live with. If there is discipline in the house, then their unconscious will be formed along with it, and they will live their life with this unconscious.
These questions may help in the home discipline.
What time does the child get up in the morning?
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A chart of the child’s daily routine is made.
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What is the homework time of the child and is the time allotted for each subject separately?
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What is the child’s play time and how much?
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You know the family of the kid’s friend, and he has a good reputation.
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What is a child’s screen time and how much?
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Does the smartphone that the child uses have relevant content or an application (YouTube for kids)?
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What is the child's bedtime?
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